Getting over yourself
Hello Dear Reader, nice to see you again.
It's been a week of getting over things. Limiting beliefs, expectations of other people, systems and emails and all those things which we let live rent free in our brains at times.
For the first time, I told someone other than my family that I had a website. Before that, I hoped people might find it by accident, but to be honest I was happy with it sitting quietly in the background making very little noise and not getting noticed. If people didn't find it then they wouldn't judge it. If people didn't judge it then I could believe that all was well and go about my day just fine.
The problem is though... if you want people to read things you've written, give you feedback or maybe even open a discussion about something, then you need to let them know it's there. Hiding in the shadows forever won't help you get to where you want to go if your ambition is more than that.
If you have a skill that you want to use or hone, but you don't showcase it then it's very difficult to find people who will have the opportunities for you to use that skill.
If you want to get coaching clients or speaking opportunities to use all the shiny skills you've been working really hard on all year and then don't tell anyone about it... well then you're not likely to get anyone coming to you.
The first step in anything is just that. A step. It can be a small step, or a big step, but it needs to be a step. In a lot of cases, getting over yourself is that first step and it is not an easy thing to do. I've talked about imposter syndrome on this blog before - not feeling good enough, "what if no one likes it? what if it doesn't work? what if? what if? what if....?" We get stuck.
We get stuck thinking and don't do any doing because the doing might lead to something else... and someone might see, or hear or judge. They also might find that you are exactly what someone needs at that moment in time and they are grateful they found you because you took a step.
So this week I took a step. I went on LinkedIn and made a post. I think I have posted all of about 5 times on LinkedIn before now for fear of getting noticed. God forbid someone might actually be in need of the skills I have and and actually see that I exist! But a post is a post. It's a first step.
If someone reads it and finds this blog, cool! If no one reads it and it just sits there, cool! At least I know I took a step and did something. Go me!
And so Dear Reader as I sign off before Christmas, I wish you a very happy festive season how ever you choose or choose not to celebrate. And if you need support in taking a little step for yourself, why not give yourself the free gift of a discovery call with me in January? A little step now could be the start of an amazing journey in 2025. For more information, click here:
Until next time x